Neuro-Linguistics is the study of language as it relates
to physiology as it relates to psychology. Patterns have
been found in the way people talk, work physically, and
the way they think. The great thing is understanding the
brain and body are connected and an incredible amount of
knowledge is stored in both. When you understand Neuro-Linguistics,
you can interact with people in an easier way.
Here are some of the
basic things to look for:
Visuals
often use words such as "can you
see/imagine/visualize this?"
You can help connect with that person by
creating visuals with them. You can say “imagine
this," "what would it look like if," ”or
“picture this.”
Auditories
will
use words like hear, say, listen, and
understand. They have a need to be really
understood and often their biggest challenge is
that no one is listening to them and that people
don't understand them. When you hear those
words, you have to kind of match them. “I need
you to listen to what I’m going to say." "Hear
what I’m saying." "What would it sound like?"
"What would you say if I were to do this?”
Kinesthetics are all about how things
feel. They often talk about whether or not they
are comfortable in situations and are often the
kind of people that crave some sort of physical
connection, like a hug, high five, or a
handshake. They are good at saying what they
feel but may not be good at actually getting it
out. They can close their eyes and focus in and
their emotions should be able to come up a bit
easier.
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Handle Negatives
A lot of people use negative language patterns. If
you ask a friend, what’s going on, they’ll often go
straight to the negative things and skip the
positive things and often when we’re negative about
something we don’t even know why we’re negative
about it. So when someone says, “oh, I hate when
that happens,” dig into it and ask, “why do you hate
that?” When we’re negative about something there’s
often another issue that we’re covering it up with.
What has caused that negativity towards that thing?
Dig into it until those negatives start to get
clearer and removed and you’ll start dealing with
much more positive people.
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Positive Mental Imaging
Creating positive mental images is matching the
picture in your brain to somebody else's. In
communication our goal is to be understood. Words
travel into the brain going your left, logical brain
first then into your right brain. There are some
words we don’t have a clear picture for and one of
those in almost every language is the word not. We
can all picture do, but when not comes in our brain
gets confused and when it doesn’t have a clear
picture it just skips it and moves onto the other
words. Therefore, when you tell someone what not to
do they actually do the opposite. Part of this is
skill in ensuring your languaging matches your
image. Focus on what you want and state that very
clearly.
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Open Loops
Everyone has all three learning channels and the one
that is easiest to grab is the auditory channel. It
needs to be completed or else it will play loops
trying to recall what it is missing. When you are
communicating with other people, you have to
understand what they want to hea as well as
understand what they want to talk about. You can
start by stating your intention and that you will
come back to that later. Then you can slip in all
the stuff that you want to say in the middle.
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Paraphrasing
When
someone talks to you they really need to know that
you have heard what they said. One of the smart
things to do is put exactly what they said back to
them. When people talk to you really listen for some
key points for what they have said and then repeat
it to them.
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